“You’re not chasing the goal itself–you’re chasing the feelings that you hope attaining those goals will give you.”–Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
Why do we want the things we want in life? Danielle LaPorte says what we really want is to FEEL a certain way, and our goals and dreams are our assumptions of what will make us feel that way.
Me? I want to feel freedom.
“Feelings are how you perceive life. Perception informs how you live.”–Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
Freedom feels scarce as an adult with Obligations. But I don’t want to feel resentful and Obligated all the time. I want to feel free. Often.
What’s nice about LaPorte’s approach is that it’s simple enough to implement in both big and small ways.
“Small, deliberate actions inspired by your true desires create a life you love.”–Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
All I need to do to feel free is to get in my car, drive to a place I’d like to be, and walk around (camera in hand, of course!) So I did.
“Being deliberate about how you want to feel is at the root of self-reliance, and it’s a collaborative effort you make with life. … Are we looking to ourselves to feel the way we want to feel, or are we relying too much on others to help us feel the way we want to feel?” –Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
As a kid, I loved rolling down the hill behind Miller Outdoor Theater in Houston’s Hermann Park. Perhaps that’s why I chose to go walking here; perhaps I felt drawn to that memory of childish abandon. This place seemed so huge then.
“You have a say in your life. There is so much that we can intentionally select in creating our reality. What comes into our cupboards and closets, what goes into our bodies, the people with whom we spend our free time, the gifts we give, how we worship, the thoughts we focus on. Clutter is a choice. Anger is a choice. Resentment is a choice. So are spaciousness, flexibility, laughter, compassion, tenderness, and resilience.” –Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
I’d like to do this again, to be a tourist in my own city. Not every day of course, because Obligations. But sometimes. To remind myself that I’m a grown woman and I can be free.